For people who want to see the world without f***ing up their mental, physical & financial health
Table Of Contents
- Getting Lost In A City – A Parisian Anecdote
- So Why Do I Journal
- Journaling Tips & Some Background On My Approach
- My Daily Journal Template
- My Quarterly Journalling Practices
Getting Lost In A City – A Parisian Anecdote
I’m writing this from a cafe here in Paris, a proper Parisian cafe with the colored chairs sitting two by each other behind small round tables. In front of me the city is buzzing, There’s a swarm of cars, motorcycles, bikes, mentally ill people yelling.
It’s a controlled anarchy that I love. The reason I love cities. Then add to this the architecture, culture, cuisine and language of France and you have Paris. Which is without a doubt one of my favorite cities in the world. See my complete digital nomad guide for Paris here.
I’ve been taking intensive French classes, which has me at a school for 5 hours a day speaking nothing but French and learning about pronunciation, vocabulary, and grammar (the latter is a bit of a nightmare).
I got to Paris nearly a week ago and I’ve been wrapped up in it all. Wrapped up in the energy of the city, the buzz, the eagerness to get my French back to where it was before, and even better.
The energy of this city is palpable to me, and I feel alive. I feel alive the same way I did hiking through the German & Austrian Alps (see my Austrian digital nomad guide here) or spending time with women I’ve been in love with (see my travel love stories here). Food tastes better. The buildings and people I’d normally let fall into the background unnoticed, I’m appreciating. I feel alive.
It’s easy to get caught up in this high, to lose sight of my emotional, physical & financial well-being and get wrapped up in the sights, sounds and people around me.
I’ve done this a million times. As someone without any strong ties to any one place I can live my entire life chasing novelty.
If I get tired of a woman I’m dating, just find a new one. If I get tired of a place I’m at just move to a new spot. If I get tired of the friends I’m around, get new ones.
I’ve gone through dozens of cities, friends and women only to realize that if I can’t find stability and peace in my travels then I’ll remain unsatisfied and alone.
A photo from Thailand with my then girlfriend, click here to read my dating and traveling stories
Instead of looking inward at my responsibility for the lack of joy, fulfillment, connection I’ll project the issue externally.
It’s X’s fault that I’m not feeling fulfilled from this relationship. It’s the shitty weather here that’s making me depressed. It’s because of my emotionally distant friends that I’m not feeling connected.
You can always find an external thing to blame your dissatisfaction on, and if you’re like me then you can keep changing those external things, until you’re exhausted and nowhere left to look but inside.
So Why Do I Journal?
I journal for a multitude of reasons, but the biggest reason is to (try to) stay calm and centered regardless of what’s going on around me.
Journalling gives me more insight into how I’m feeling, what I’m dissatisfied with and how to improve my mood for the day.
That keeps me from blaming my dissatisfaction on the world around me, it gives me the power to control my emotions.
In addition to this, there are some other benefits I get from journalling
- A daily reminder about what’s important to me (through reviewing my intentions, HW and goals)
- Setting my mind in a positive framework (through gratitude)
- Checking in on my emotions and bodily sensations
- Making sure that I’m taking care of myself, and getting my major needs met
- Making sure that I’m working toward my mental / spiritual, physical & financial goals
- A space for me to discover why I’m feeling the way I am
A video from my last trip to Costa Rica. Where I started getting more serious about my journalling
Important Notes, Tips & Explanations About Journalling
- I do not journal daily, or complete all of this tasks as much as I’d like.
- I try my hardest, if I skip a day or two I don’t give up on journaling, I get back on the horse and try again. It’s the same idea if you want to stay fit while traveling.
- The goal of journaling isn’t to fill everything out 100% and fully optimize my morning process, etc. the goal is to better understand myself, what gives me energy, what takes energy away and reminding myself about what I truly care about.
- Even with the world open to me, it’s incredible how easy I can “optimize” myself into a prison. I want to feel fulfilled by my journalling, not imprisoned by it
- This template isn’t set in stone
- I started journalling regularly when I started my digital marketing business four years ago. Over the years, I’ve changed my approach to journaling and I’ll likely update it a few more times in the next 4 years.
- I know one thing though, I will be journaling for the rest of my life
- But journalling in the morning takes up a lot of time, I got things to do!
- I get this, and I even skip my journaling in the morning (although I try my hardest never to skip two days in a row)
- However, taking the time to sit and journal can be huge in priming your mind to stay on track. If you can sit down and complete a journal process it can help you stay on track and not get distracted when you’re working on other tasks throughout the day.
A video of me writing in my journal in a beautiful cabin in Santa Helena, Colombia
My Daily Journal Template
- What Am I Happy About From Yesterday?
- What Did I Do Yesterday That I’d Like To Improve On Today?
- Gratitude – 5 Things I’m Grateful For Right Now
- 3 Main Foci
- Mental / Spiritual Health
- Healthy Ways To Get Connection
- Healthy Ways To Get Novelty
- Healthy Ways To Get Comfort
- Healthy Ways To Get Validation
- Physical Health
- Career / Financial Health
- Mental / Spiritual Health
- My Notes Section
A snapshot of a couple days in my journal
Breakdown of The Sections Of My Daily Journaling
What Am I Happy About From Yesterday?
Admittedly, I’m not great at always doing this part and the next. But this can be a great way to kickstart my gratitude for the day, and also build some positive momentum going into the day.
What Did I Do Yesterday That I’d Like To Improve On Today?
I always tell my employees that making the same mistakes over and over again are how businesses fail. It’s not too different for people either, making the same mistakes over and over again is a recipe for disaster.
This process can really expedite identifying recurring issues and shortening their lifetime.
Gratitude – 5 Things I’m Grateful For Right Now
A shot from my bike ride through Greece & Turkey, gratitude is a necessity for these rides
A couple tips to gratitude
- Try not to repeat the same things every morning – this is easy to do, and can keep you from fully experiencing the practice.
- Try to list out the details of what you’re grateful for, as well as why you’re grateful for it.
- Here’s an example – I’m grateful for this cafe I’m at. Vs. I’m grateful for this cafe I’m at, the natural lighting that it has, the trees outside the windows, the kindness of the staff and the beautiful music they play, it makes me feel inspired and brings me joy.
- Notice your emotions, gratitude is an emotion if you’re not feeling any changes to your emotions you may need to switch things up.
- You can also use gratitude as an affirmation of things to come. I’m grateful that (X) injury will be fixed, I’m grateful that I’ll get that raise by the end of the month, etc.
- One thing I started doing on my longer bike rides when I was having a hard time switching over into gratitude was what I call gratitude bombs.
- This is where I’ll spend as much time as it takes listing out everything I’m grateful for until I can start to feel the positivity creeping in. Sometimes you’re listing things out for 5 minutes, but eventually your mind does come around.
3 Main Foci
A lot of journal prompts will have you outline your 1 – 5 goals for the day, I really liked this idea and I transformed it a bit.
Everyday I journal I want to outline what I’m going to do today for my mental / spiritual health, my physical health and finally my financial / career health.
This order is very important to me.
My Mental health is #1, my physical health comes second, and then my career and financial health. I don’t always get this order right, but it’s a big intention of mine.
I don’t care how much money I make, if I’m not in the physical shape I want to be in, I’m not going to be fulfilled.
I can also make a bunch of money and be in great shape, but if I’m not taking care of my mental health and I’m feeling miserable that’s not the life I want to live either.
A shot of me when I was in Vietnam. In great shape, but largely ignoring my mental health. Learn more about my journey to being a digital nomad here.
So I start my mornings reinforcing what’s most important to me.
- First my mental spiritual health
- Then what I’m going to do for my physical health – interested in staying fit while traveling? Check out my guide here.
- And finally what I’m going to do for my career / financial health
Looking back now, could I have achieved the financial / career success I have now if I had been more focused on my mental health while I was climbing the career ladder?
I don’t know… so maybe my lack of introspection served me for building a career, but at this point I’m not interested in regularly trading happiness today for money tomorrow.
My Mental / Spiritual Health
Here’s a breakdown of what I try to do everyday
- 15 Minutes Meditation – trying to focus on my bodily sensations and emotions and less on my thoughts
- Filling out the emotions I’m feeling, where I’m feeling them in my body and the need I’m either getting or not getting that’s causing me to feel these feelings
- This practice was introduced to me from my therapist, and it originally comes from The Center For Non-violent Communication.
- I’m not super strong at recognizing what emotions I’m feeling and why I’m feeling them so starting off every morning by checking in with my emotions is a good way to prime me to stay in tuned with my emotions throughout the day
- Re-reading my intentions (more on this below)
- Re-reading my 4 – 8 week goals (more on this below)
- Re-reading the insights and HW I got from my previous therapy session (more on this below)
- This practice was introduced to me from my therapist, and it originally comes from The Center For Non-violent Communication.
- After this I’ll outline how I plan to get 4 of my most common needs met that day. After my attempt with celibacy, I realized that if I’m not getting the following needs met I turn to promiscuity.
- Validation – Feeling good enough
- Comfort – Feeling comfortable / far from anxiety, stress
- Connection – Feeling connected and close to others. This can be tough as a nomad, so I interviewed 6 other full-time travelers and came up with this guide to build community & connection while traveling.
- Novelty – The excitement of new experiences
A shot of me journalling in Cancun, Mexico. Where I started getting more in touch with my emotions. Interested in digital nomadding in Mexico, check out my guide for Mexico City or Playa Del Carmen.
I would recommend everyone who regularly engages in behaviors they want to change to take some time to look through this list of human needs and figure out which needs they’re getting met through those behaviors and how they can find healthier ways to get those needs met.
After struggling with overeating, drinking to feel better and relying on sex and women to feel good I’ve started outlining daily how I can get my most important needs met and it helps keep the urges (more) under control.
Do I still slip up? Absolutely, but outlining healthier ways to get these needs met daily has really helped me in mitigating the occurrences and duration of my slip-ups.
So everyday I try to outline 1 – 3 healthier ways I can get these 4 needs met.
My Physical Goals For The Day
A shot of me in Portugal, not nearly as lean as my photo from Vietnam above, but not bad for someone who’s on the move. Check out my digital nomad guide for Lisbon here.
This is a huge one, especially for people who travel and want to stay fit. Having a clear plan for my diet and exercise at the beginning of each day is absolutely essential for staying fit wherever I’m at.
For me this generally breaksdown into a couple of things
- My diet – what I’m going to eat that day
- Stretching, band work – work to keep my body loose and mitigate injuries (or worsening existing injuries)
- Exercise – what exercise I’m going to do that day
Career / Financial Work
A shot of me in Rio De Janeiro, back when I was working office jobs, and far more focused on my career & financial health, over my physical / mental health.
For this section, ideally I want to find the 1 – 2 things I can do for my businesses that are going to have the biggest impact on my long-term business health. Here’s a podcast about figuring out your $10, $100 & $1,000 tasks (I’m actually working through this week) to determine what those big tasks are.
The goal is to constantly be evaluating what I’m doing throughout the day for work. Is this something that’s in my zone of Genius ( and worth $1,000 an hour)?
If not, then I need to build out a process, and train someone else to do it. If it’s not important enough to train someone else to do it, then I need to really re-consider whether I should be doing it at all.
The vision board I created when I started my digital marketing business. I used to look at that photo of the labtop and the mountains in the background on a weekly basis dreaming about where I am today. I’m incredibly lucky, and I know that journalling has helped me immensely in getting here.
My Notes Section
This is where I put my notes in for the day, what am I thinking about? What would I like to get off my chest? Etc.
I know people who will set a timer for 10 – 15 minutes to ensure that they get some free form writing out, I don’t do that but do think it’s a good idea for sure.
My Quarterly Journalling Practices
So every 3 months I swap out my journal for a new one. I do this for a couple of reasons.
- This allows me to review my intentions, goals, visions for the future
- I also use these journals as time capsules of the things I did. Where I can look back later on and remember where I was at in that quarter, what I was doing, etc.
Here’s the list of my quarterly journalling practices
- Listing out healthier ways I can get my main needs met
- Validation
- Comfort
- Connection
- Novelty
- My Intentions – How do I want to live my daily life
- I break these down into the same 3 categories I use in my daily journal, Mental / Spiritual, Physical, & Career / Financial
- I limit this to 10 items maximum per category, and list them out in order of how important they are. This helps me huge in prioritizing my daily goals and what I should be doing day to day.
- This varies a lot from my bucket list items, and where I want to be at 40, because these are things I want to do day to day.
A Couple Articles About Goal Setting
Goal Setting & How Goals Change
Why I Don’t Focus On Goal Setting Anymore
- My Bucket List – List of things I want to do before my 40th Birthday.
- I really try to push myself to list out all of the things I’d like to experience that bring me the most excitement, even if they seem far-fetched.
- Reviewing and re-writing these quarterly is huge in keeping me motivated!
- Where Do I Want To Be At 40? Listing out how I want my life to look like at 40, broken down into 4 categories
- Mental / Spiritual
- Physical
- Career / Financial
- Misc. / Lifestyle
- This is very similar to a BHAG – a Big Hairy Audacious goal, but I list out the year I want to have these goals come true. This makes the goal feel much more tangible.